Shadow Work in Organizations
If you have ever worked as part of a team in an organization, whether it is a corporation, small business, or even a volunteer-run non-profit, you may have noticed that sometimes, things get dirty. Drama erupts, accusations fly, or a silent rift grows between people due to unresolved personal problems. These problems harm the culture and disrupt the overall effectiveness of the organization profoundly and in ways that are either completely missed by its leadership, delegated to HR to (not
New Offering: Circling Groups for Autistic Adults
I’m pleased to announce that I’m opening up my first circling groups for autistic adults starting today. https://polarity.coach/circling-groups It’s a great fit for growth-oriented autistic adults who would like to connect and practice with others of like mind. I’m opening it up to individuals who are either professionally diagnosed, self-diagnosed, or who think they might be on the spectrum but aren’t sure yet. Interested people should fill out the form at the bottom of that page. The first group will be starting
Protecting and Evolving Our Democracy
So far, I have stayed clear of politics in what I write here. But politics is about leadership, and great leadership is about learning to leverage polarities, whether we call them that or not. In this post, I do not endorse any political party and only intend to share a different way of thinking about how politics might function that I find inspiring. I hope that you do too. Leading up to mid-term election day in the US, it
Shadow Work: Healing Introjections
If you struggle with feelings of unworthiness, self-doubt, or shame, then it is likely that what you are dealing with is a specific type of shadow called an introjection. An introjection occurs when you gain inaccurate information from an experience and carry it forward as though it is the truth instead of recognizing it for the distortion that it is. Introjections commonly result from taking on the projections of other people and are most commonly formed during childhood, which is
Boundaries Begin With Dignity, Not The Other Way Around
When was the last time you found yourself trying to point out the harm that someone else caused, only to have them respond with denial, indifference, or gaslighting? How about the last time you found yourself subject to someone else’s overblown reaction, blamed for something you honestly didn’t do, or distrusted based on a misunderstanding of your intent? If we look deep enough into these situations, we can see that what we all long for is dignity. Dignity as honored not
Blame Locates a Doorway that Curiosity Opens
What can we do as a community, as a team, or as a couple when we find ourselves polarized in a state of deep disagreement, stuck in the blame game and unable to move forward together? That is a question I attempted to answer in 10 Tips for Navigating Deep Disagreement. Here, we take a deeper look at how the emotion of curiosity plays a critical role in transforming any conflict into a growth opportunity. We need not look far to see
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